Definition of synergology®, or the study of body language
Body language is the main form of non-verbal communication. It includes gestures, facial expressions, posture, way of moving and much more. All these signals sent unconsciously by our body, provide valuable information about our emotional state and our intentions, for those who are able to interpret them correctly.
This is what the synergology®a discipline that allowsapprehend the human from the structure of his body language.
Maxime Nourichard, synergologist: This discipline is very young, since until the 1980s, there was no discipline or science whose object of study was body language.
It was finally only in 1994 that Philippe Turchet, doctor And language science researcherdeveloped the concept of synergologie®, derived from “synergy”, translating the idea of ”being together, being active in a situation of discourse”, and trademarked it in 1996. He would write several books on the subject, including the two best sellers “The universal language of the body” and “The big book of synergology” regularly reissued.
Posture, gestures, gaze, facial language, hands…: How to read, decipher and understand body language?
If words can deceive, the body does not lie. And each sign it sends can allow an expert eye to better understand and apprehend it. If they are not exhaustive, the main body signals have nevertheless been identified, described and sorted in the TEC “table of body elements“, which lists no less than 1200 !
The 6 main families of body signs
“We can group these 1200 signs into 6 large distinct families” indicates the specialist.
– THE Loops : These are all gestures that involve the body forming a loop with itself. “It can be crossing your arms or legs, interlacing your fingers…” explains Maxime Nourrichard.
– THE reactions : They can be facial expressions or body movements: blinking, raising an eyebrow, raising the shoulders, twisting the mouth…
– I’Auto-contact : touching your face, scratching your head, massaging your leg…
– THE Gestures : when speaking, the hands always express themselves in space. Observing them is rich in lessons: which hand moves the most? Do they move symmetrically? What is their configuration: closed, open, a stretched finger…?
– There grip : or the way of apprehending and situating oneself in an environment. “Pushing an object, putting your glasses back in place, holding a pen or a cup … are all gripping elements to study” indicates the specialist.
– There Stature of the whole body: do you stand rather back in your chair or rather forward, leaning to the right or the left, very straight or rather bent with your head in your shoulders…?
This classification into 6 families is called the BRAGPS.
Two transmitters: one loud and one quiet
And thanks to the analysis of these numerous signs, synergology® calls into question the classic diagram of communication, which opposes on the one hand the one who speaks and who could represent the transmitter, and on the other hand the one who listens and would be the receiver. “In synergology®, we consider that there is two transmitters – a noisy transmitterand another silent transmitter – and both say the same things each other” summarizes Maxime Nourichard.
A sign has both meaning and meaning
And each sign emitted by the silent transmitter has both meaning and significance. “For example, pinching your nose during a conversation reflects discomfort: it’s the meaning of the gesture. But beyond this meaning, it is important to understand the meaning : what is the reason for this unease?” explains the expert. This is also where the synergologist comes in, who after having identified the meaning of a sign, bounces back and asks questions to advance on its meaning: it is said that it “sub-questions”.
Interpretation: What are the gestures that betray us?
“Gestures never betray: they translate us!” corrects Maxime Nourichard. They translate a thought or a emotionwhich we would sometimes – admittedly – prefer to keep to ourselves.
There are indeed a number of gestures that can convey discomfort, embarrassment or disagreement, which we are not able to signify with words. “This is what is called the body item of the unsaid” explains the specialist.
Among the most common:
– Run his tongue against the inside of his cheek, revealing a protrusion on the cheek. “Generally, this gesture reflects the fact that we keep a negative message for us, something that we are not ready to say” indicates the synergologist.
– Remove an object from oneself : moving a cup, a pencil holder or even a telephone placed on a desk away from oneself shows a disagreement with what is being said or is happening.
– Make your hands disappear : under the table, crossed under his armpits or under his thighs. Hiding your hands is a sign of great embarrassment, a lack of self-confidence or even significant embarrassment.
– A eyelid lower – or lower palpebral leaflet – very low, revealing the white under the iris, is the sign of a deep malaise. “It can be the beginnings of a burn-out, the sign of extreme fatigue or even depression” deciphers Maxime Nourichard.
What are the signs of lying
Exit the lie detector or the truth serum: the analysis of body language also makes it possible to recognize the signs of lying, so as not to fall into the trap of your interlocutor.
Maxime Nourichard: However, be careful not to hastily interpret the signs of a lie! It often happens that someone tells the truth but behaves like a liar, if, for example, he is convinced that no one will believe him. This is called the Othello effect.
“Synergology® teaches how to distinguish emotional body languagewhich can be misleading, and the cognitive body language more reliable” adds the specialist.
Signs of lying can be:
– A stare, in the eyes : the liar fixes his interlocutor because he wants to make sure that he believes in his lie. Someone who tells the truth has more of a look that goes back and forth, because he tries to remember what he has experienced.
– Little or no blinking : “Blinking the eyes allows you to put the brain on pause, in order to go and look for information to restore it” develops the synergologist. The absence of a blink is therefore rather a sign that we are focused on rendering a coherent scenario.
– A gesture organized : “It is often said that the body of a liar is more harmonious than the body of someone who tells the truth” emphasizes Maxime Nourichard. When we tell what we have experienced, our body relives its history, moves a lot, in a disorderly and asymmetrical way. The liar on his side, has in mind a constructed and tied up scenario: he tells his story with precise and symmetrical gestures… which can betray him!
What is the body language of a man in love?
“Does he like me, or do I make movies of myself?”. Know how to decode the signs of seduction is the object of many fantasies.
Maxime Nourichard: First of all, it should be remembered that the signs of seduction are universal and non-gendered: what is valid for a man is therefore also valid for a woman.
– THE pupils dilated : In the collective imagination, attraction and seduction induce dilation of the pupil. “It’s true, but we have to put this into perspective because there is also a mimicry effect: when we stare at a person whose pupils are dilated, our pupils tend to dilate as well” indicates the synergologist. The dilated eyelids of our tryst, can therefore simply be the reflection of our own attraction for him!
– The high and bulging lower eyelid : the lower palpebral layer tends to rise with a smile, positive emotions and attraction. It is by observing this lower eyelid that we can also know if a smile is forced or not!
– THE laugh : It’s rare that we laugh out loud at something funny. Most often, we laugh to please the other or to release emotional tension, even quite strong sexual. What to confirm the old adage which affirms that “Woman who laughs half in your bed”!
– The blink of the eyelids : In the context of seduction, the blinking of the eyelid is very rapid and irregular, which shows that one is experiencing a strong emotion.
– Touching her hair : “Touching your hair is often perceived as an absolute sign of seduction: well that’s not always true!” tempers Maxime Nourichard. Bringing strands of hair back is not a very good sign, while wiggle them forward, towards the partnerclearly conveys the desire for physical closeness. Moreover, the slower and softer the touch of the hair, the more positive it is.
– lean forward : the posture of the body says a lot about our degree of attraction. And quite logically, the closer we get to the person opposite by leaning towards them, the more we indicate our desire for them… Conversely, a person camped in the back of their chair does not bode well!
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